Take a moment right now to think about the people you know and how they handle stress.
Think about the woman involved in every imaginable project, event, or group—leading this, power-housing that. At first glance, she may seem amazing! You know, the woman who serves organic, gourmet meals in her beautifully clean, stylish home, has 4 brilliant children, 2 dogs, 1 cat, and a pet lizard. She’s like the Proverbs 31 woman on steroids.
However, if you knew her really well (if you are her), you might see symptoms of major stress and low EQ. Yes, low EQ. She may be unable to take feedback, be an expert at micro-managing, and seriously close to burnout.
On the flip side, look at a woman high in the EQ skills of emotional self-awareness, accurate self-assessment, and resilience. She can’t be talked into a volunteer position when she already has a full schedule. She’s not willing to endure the stress of trying to do a great job at 10 things when in reality there’s only time to do 7 things with excellence. She’s aware of her priorities.
The high EQ woman would show accurate self-assessment by thoughtfully recognizing what she can—and can’t do. In her commitment to self-development, she asks for feedback, looks for new perspectives, and continually pursues growth that makes her stretch without causing her to be overwhelmed, pressured, or anxious.
When you have a healthy amount of commitments, you have more resiliency. You’re able to manage and navigate stress better; you can persevere. There may be problems, but you can cope.
Because you see failure as a temporary setback, you have less stress and you’re able to better navigate the stress you do have.
Life is better when you have high EQ.